Marriage proposal idea
The Dark Tent
Turn both headlamps off in the tent and ask in total dark.
- Cost
- $25-175
- Effort
- medium
- Best for
- the partner who cries and hates being seen crying
The idea
Camp somewhere with no light nearby. Get in the tent when the cold pushes you in, lie down, and let the talking slow to nothing. Then click your headlamp off and ask them to turn theirs off too. Ask in the dark, where neither of you can see the other's face.
If you are the kind of person who cannot get words out while somebody is looking at you, this removes the problem completely. You are not performing, you are two voices in a nylon room. It also means they get to react however they actually react, including badly for the first ten seconds, and nobody is watching them do it.
The mistake is a busy campground where you can hear the site next door cough. Pay for a walk-in site or drive another half hour out. And if you do not already own a tent, borrow one, because a first camping trip and a proposal on the same night is a lot of new things at once.
What to say
“I turned the light off because I knew I'd lose my nerve if you were looking at me. So here it is, in the dark, done badly. I want to keep doing this with you, the cold nights and the good ones. Will you marry me?”
Say it slower than feels natural. The pause after it is the whole moment, so let it sit there.
What you'll need
- 🎉a two person tentFind it
- 🍬two sleeping bags or a double quiltFind it
- 🎉two headlampsFind it
- 🎉firewood and a lighterFind it
- 🎉one night at a walk-in campsite, about $20-40Find it
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Step by step
- 1Book a walk-in or hike-in site so nobody is parked ten feet away.
- 2Check the fire ban before you count on a fire, and buy firewood at or near the campground, because most states do not let you bring it in from another county.
- 3Get there with enough daylight left to set up without a headlamp.
- 4Eat, sit by the fire, and let the night get genuinely dark.
- 5Go in the tent when the cold pushes you in, not before.
- 6Turn your light off first, then ask them to turn theirs off.
- 7Say it in the dark. Keep it zipped in your pocket until a headlamp is back on, then hand it over.
Plan the rest of it
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- A supplies checklist with what to buy and when to buy it
- A rain plan, because outdoor asks lose to weather more than anything else
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